My (45/F) daughter (16/F) is in a relationship with a boy (17/M) who treats her like absolute trash and as her mother I'm at a loss for what to do in order to help her understand that he's not good for her.

Sadly, shes going to have to figure it out for herself. Shes 17, deeply in love and infatuated with a boy. And sadly, this will change how she approaches and the way she acts in relationships.

While I'm not excusing his bad behavior, I will say that I was an absolutely shitty human being at 17. In fact, I think 95 percent of 17 year olds are shitty people.

You also have to bear in mind that they are still kid but faced with very adult issues. They're rarely going to make the right choice. They're incredibly awkward and insecure. They lack life experience and are even more so self centered and self serving.

All you can really do is offer advice when she solicits it. Dont try to steer her in the direction you want her to go. Offer her genuine advice and how to heal her wounds. Just be a shoulder to cry on and be there when the cookie crumbles because it inevitably will. And I hope that it doesnt screw with her future relationships.

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