Ex’s ex-wife gave me her number and told me she’s there if I ever needed to talk. Whatsapped every now and then to say she hopes everything is ok and we’re happy.

I thought it was really unusual and that maybe she just didn’t want to move on, but no. When his true self made an appearance, this chick was there for me and it meant everything. Helped with escape plan, stayed in touch with him too so I had a heads up when he was festering with rage and I should find a reason to be somewhere else before he arrived back home. Fucking hero.

You’re right about not throwing all the dirt out there though. If she’d done that, I just would have assumed she was jealous and attempting sabotage. I would have blocked her.