my best friend moved in with me and my boyfriend and it's causing serious issues in my relationship.

Why are you so quick to go at your friend but hold no accountability for your dumbass boyfriend? You are considering ending a 5 year friendship over a 10 month relationship.

I am not condoning this friend of yours, I agree her behaviour is abhorrent. However, you need to be aware that she was just kicked out by the strongest male figure in her life, there’s a lot she has to deal with emotionally and though wrong, she could be seeking emotional validation from your bf; again this is wrong, but just think about her headspace right now.

But the biggest issue is your boyfriend. You need to remember, he is participating in these sex jokes as well, he is also the one who gets upset when you interfere, he was the one who refused to go to bed with you, he hasn’t been sexually intimate with you, he is engaging with your friend in an inappropriate way, and he has emotionally started to become distant from you. Is 10 months worth that?

Your friends behaviour is no where near okay and you have the right to be mad at her. But your boyfriends behaviour is worst. You say you can’t be friends with someone who doesn’t respect your boundaries, so how can you be in a relationship with a person who is doing exactly that?

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