My BF’s (30M) gift-giving habits are starting to cause some resentment. How should I (26F) handle his upcoming birthday?

Thanks for that. You put it very nicely while simply. I haven't mentioned anything about the presents. He's been grieving the suicide of his biological mother (happened three years ago, but the anniversary was earlier this month) so he's been very stand offish. I've tried asking nicely to please talk to me and not ignore me for days, like come on you're 3000 miles away, how can a five minute phone call hurt. I've tried getting angry, I've cried and pleaded with him to at least just talk to me, and not even like let's talk all day everyday, just a simple how was your day? Mine was fine phone call? And he keeps saying that he is just mad at the world and doesn't want to talk. And he'll try be better at it. Which is bullshit because how are you on Twitter but can't reply to a question about giving our dog up since I'm planning on throwing everything away and moving to be with him.

Everything was just so perfect when we lived together and actually talked.

Sorry I've started venting now, things are just weird and I don't know how to fix it, but I don't want to break up because this dude promised me we're gonna spend our lives together and I don't want to throw 2 1/2 years away. I don't know if he's cheated/cheating, actually depressed, or if he's just treating me like nothing because he doesn't want to be the bad guy and break up with me. But I'm also not going to be the bad guy and keep on doing everything I can to make this work. Unless he has cheated because that is my only deal breaker. But of course from across the country he could easily be lying. Or maybe he is depressed and actually does spend all his time in bed. Like I said tho, he barely has talked to me for the last two weeks so I don't how much of anything that's going on right now.

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