My BF’s friend showed me his penis and I haven’t told him.

Please read this more than once and consider with an open mind. My advice differs from others, but it’s advice you need to hear. I have friends who have been in similar situations, and if the ones who made a bad choice regret it to this day. The ones who learned about themselves and acknowledged their true feelings and made the right choice are so glad they did. First of all, DON’T tell your boyfriend until you figure a few things out and how you really feel. I know it wasn’t the right thing for the “friend” to do that, but he probably felt like there was this vibe between you. To be honest, given how you describe things, it seems like there might be. Don’t judge yourself - just explore how you really feel - not about what he did, but about whether you are attracted and if yes, why. Your post just makes me feel like you are interested but wanting to play your role by the rules - but that might mean not being faithful to yourself. He was looking at you up and down, and you thought it was “a bit inappropriate,” and only because he was your guest. Then when you saw his cock, you just stood there ... for how long watching him masturbate? If you’d really not liked it, I think you would not have watched. Then you answered his question and continued. And the way you’re answering the question, “I’m not saying that.” It seems like a clear sign, you just can’t bring yourself to admit it. That’s very natural when we’re attracted and can’t process why we’re so tempted.

If you tell your boyfriend, you could really scar him. You really need to consider how you feel about it, because your boyfriend is going to wonder those same things I’m bringing up. He’s never going to trust you weren’t attracted or tempted. And in all honesty, if you were tempted, it will be okay. You didn’t cause the situation and you are responsible for your desires. People won’t admit it, but some things can really matter, and for some of us, size is one. The way you were hit with that thunderbolt and didn’t walk away, it’s so clear. Maybe the friend is picked up on it and on your not getting upset when he ogled you. For some of us, that first experience letting ourselves feel that attraction can be very hard. So you need to explore that when you’re alone, sexually. If it turns you on, you should freely admit it to yourself. If not, then and only then should you get him out of there. This kind of thing happens all the time. You’ll be fine. Zit you tell your boyfriend, he’ll probably be crushed. Small chance he’ll like it. That could be why the friend is staying in the first place.

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