I could have written this post except I could have never been so succinct or had as much clarity on the subject back when it mattered most.

I'm divorced now but there was a time my partner considered leaving me for these reasons (and more) and ultimately the relationship did end. Not exactly due to this because this wouldn't have been enough for him to leave without feeling incredibly guilty. But it was difficult for him not to belittle me excessively for many of these behaviors.

I think he wanted someone more refined and, honestly, someone able to put making him a priority as a priority. I couldn't/wouldn't do that. I wanted him to have compassion for me and my plight, he just didn't have any.

As I said, we're divorced now. He's had many failed relationships. I've barely sought any relationships knowing I have to work on myself before I would be comfortable exposing my insecurities.(Also, my children are my priority right now.) I'm much happier not being subjected to his constant criticism. He's not all that happier from what I can tell.

So you know, if it were so easy to change your ways, maybe you could and would. But even if you can't and this relationship ends, you're going to be just fine without him. And yes, possibly you'll feel better off.