My boyfriend is freaking out about my birthday this week. I gave him some ideas.

In spite of having no practical relationship experience, the phrase "I want to feel special for my birthday" is a pretty obvious sign to me for one to go out of their way to do extra nice things they might not usually do.

That's basically it. This conversation came up over Christmas and I mentioned how I can't remember having a birthday that was a good day. I think my last good birthday was when I was 6. My parents divorced when I was 7 and my dad never threw me parties (not because he didn't care, but birthdays weren't a big deal to him so it was kind of an oversight on his part). I had one party with my dad when I was 12 but his wife demanded my guests bring her daughter presents, too, and make the day about her as well (she was four years younger and her birthday is 3 months before mine..). My mom threw parties but they had to be with her boyfriends daughter (we share a birthday) who has special needs. She always got to pick where our party was, what we did, what we ate, etc. and I could only invite as many people as R.S.V.P.ed for her invites, and I had to share my presents with her.

When I was 15 my mom and I planned my sweet sixteen for a year. Day of comes and there's no party. When I asked her about it she said she "didn't think I was serious." WAT. In college no one came to my parties. And then I just stopped celebrating.

Now, I don't want a party. I never wanted a party. All I have literally ever wanted is just a day about me. Where I get to do what I want and someone makes me feel special. I don't need or want presents and I don't want a big event. Last year all I wanted was a hamster (because I'm basically an adult child. Also I always wanted one and my mom would never let me have one) which my very sweet boyfriend surprised me with. But I had to take it back three days later because the dog got to the cage twice and I was really worried she was going to kill him.

It's my birthday next week. I want French toast, I want someone else to play with my clitoris, and some whiskey would be nice. All at once or in whatever order I don't care. I think he's just freaking out because of the hamster mishap last year.

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