One thing about this sub I continue not to understand is why the commenters always seem to talk about the wrong thing. It’s something I see a lot and I just feel like I need to point this out.
The question is about her boyfriend, not with whether she does or doesn’t wash a part of her body, or what stuff she uses to do so.
Obviously she knows how to wash herself, and that is between her and her doctor. Just because we don’t understand it does not mean it is wrong or that it requires guidance or direction.
Plus it’s not what she came here for help with. She needs help explaining to her boyfriend that she does know how to care for her own body. Which is ironically the same problem the commenters here seem to be giving her.
I’m not trying to offend or shame anyone, I’m just trying to point out to folks how, despite meaning well, they aren’t actually being helpful. Too many of us are focused on the wrong thing from her post, and not the question at hand.
A bunch of what I’m reading is this woman is being told by strangers the same kind of stuff she’s getting from her boyfriend. Honestly a lot of us are doing what he’s doing, and it kind of feels worse(?)
She didn’t come her for medical advice, she came here for interpersonal or relationship advice.
That being said, OP, although I’m sure your boyfriend is also coming from a place of concern and a desire to be helpful he’s being the opposite.
He might need a reminder that he is dating you, not someone else, and that like every single person on this planet, your body also has subtle differences than that of other people of your gender.
One solution does not work for every person. Often different people require different solutions. That’s a fact of life.
If he’s that concerned about “taste”, (or if you just are, which is a totally normal feeling to have) I would talk to your OBGYN about your concerns (which is something Ive seen other commenters suggest that I do agree with).
You can even tell your boyfriend you’re going to talk to your doctor about it and let him know what they say.
That should help alleviate both of your concerns and allow you guys to move past this discussion.