My boyfriend loves social media... to the point I find it offensive.

You are being paranoid to an extent and your post is slightly contradictory.

I mean, you do have a legitimate reason to say "hey, I think you need to dial back down a bit. I'd like to spend time with your butthole, but you don't make time for me anymore".

The hacking and password leaking is just a happenstance of using the social media app he is using. I think Twitter and Tumblr are hacked every now and then and the hackers post usernames and passwords online for others to use. The kicker to this is that although this does happen, the "snapshot" of usernames and passwords are usually weeks if not months old by the time they are released online for other folks to use. If you are really worried for his safety, you would encourage the use of a VPN and changing his password on a regular basis. I dont think either of you have anything to worry about if someone from India takes over his profile. Heaven forbid they draw mustaches on his pictures, or photoshops Richard Simmons into them. I mean, whats the worst that can happen? What is tied to this proifle that you are sooo concerned about (in regards to his safety)?

Also, the most important thing to remember is that this is his tumblr, or twitter and he finds enjoyment in it. Sure you could encourage him to do other things, but it seems like he likes what he is doing. He is also attracting people to him to encourage more people to follow him. Whats the point of twitter or tumbler if you only have 5 friends or people in your network. That's lame.

Also, on one hand, you seem to complain and are a bit jealous that he posts so much about himself, but doesn't include you. Then you continue to go on and say that you are concerned for privacy, both in your personal and professional life. If he includes you in pictures or posts on his tumblr/twitter won't your privacy be exposed? What if his account truly is hacked one day? What if the Indians draw mustaches on your face too? Think about it. You could be ruined for life.

I also genuinely feel that there is a big part of this that was left out, and I think the missing context would really help in this situation, especially with feedback. If people are contacting him and saying things to him that you dont like or that they shouldnt be is one thing, but you can't control what others do or will say. In this regard, as long as he's being true to you and not telling guys that he is single or sending naked PM's of himself to his followers, this should be a non issue. Again, you can't control what other users will say or do.

All in all I find this pretty silly. If you don't like his social media usage, ask him to dial it back and go from there. If it continues to bother you and he cant break free, there are plenty of other guys out there. I also must say that after being in such a long relationship myself, I can completely understand where you are coming from.

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