I think you raised some really interesting points.

We’ve tried watching porn together two different times and neither of us really were into it. We had a hard time agreeing on a video and we both just kinda sat in silence while it went on before we turned it off and just had normal sex. I’m positive he wouldn’t be into doing it again.

Yeah I know what he likes, I could get more freaky with foreplay. But it’s hard to get into it when he’s not into it. Aka he gets giggly or stops to make conversation. I’ll try to up the anti a little next time.

Well at one point, his libido was so low (sex once every two weeks) and he wasn’t cumming, that he stopped watching porn all together. The sex was instantly better and more frequent and he even said he was amazed with how high his libido had gone after stopping watching porn. I never even asked him to stop— he decided to himself after me being obviously super unsatisfied led to a lot of fights. I think that all those fights about me being unsatisfied did make him feel inadequate. But this was a year ago now, so I can’t imagine they’re still effecting us? And he doesn’t complain about his performance or anything because he always makes me cum too, we’re a team, and he knows I love every minute of it. Aside from foreplay being whatever, the sex itself is great. I honestly have no idea why he prefers watching porn over me.