I had a hard time finishing for a long time with multiple partners.

I think two things were holding me back. First, those partners weren't great at it. Not bad, just not good enough. Second, they usually didn't do it long enough, with the right, steady rhythm at the end.

I usually would feel bad that it was taking too long, then I'd get in my head, and rather than enjoy and let go, I'd start to feel creeping anxiety, and I'd ultimately stop them.

I finally got involved with someone who really knew what she was doing. There was no comparison to past experiences. So that was enough to get me there.

I also really like going down on my partners, and I make that very clear. I want them to know that I'm enjoying myself, and that it's a huge turn-on. When I've had partners that have let me go down on them a lot, I feel that my "generosity" in giving makes me more comfortable in receiving. So I can let them go long enough without feeling bad.