My boyfriend watches porn :/

Lying is pretty uncool in a relationship. Policing a partner's masturbation methods (so long as it doesn't negatively affect your sex life) is also uncool.

You can find a man who says he doesn't watch porn and you're all he needs, and you can find a liar in the same place. Watching porn doesn't mean that you're not enough and he wants someone else. It's a fantasy, and so long as he's not dependent on it to get off, it's likely just a quick release.

As a woman who used to have major insecurities about my partner watching porn, who is now a lot older (and a small bit wiser!) I'd strongly suggest you stop watching the level of the lotion bottle. Just don't check it. It's never, ever going to make you feel better. People masturbate, and as long as it doesn't affect the quality and level of sexual compatibility you two have (and it's not crazy illegal/stuff you are really really not into), it shouldn't be a big deal.

That said, please reiterate to him that lying is a real shit thing to do. And maybe don't ask him about how he jerks it?

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