Talking about it didn't cause that to happen. When we had problems we talked them out. Talking out problems does work. But we failed with the last one because it changed into her straight accusing me of something I didn't do, and whenever I said it wasn't true she'd say "just tell me the truth" or "be honest with me." An argument is one thing but that same argument lasted us a month and a half. There was nothing I could do to change her mind and I tried. Having a discussion about your relationship is a good thing, having an interrogation is not. So long as your both talking to each other, and not unrelentingly accusing each other you'll be fine. Besides don't go assuming that our relationships were identical. They didn't start, and probably won't end the same way. And honestly I'm leaving out the parts of this story where she started threatening me because she "knew" I was lying... which honestly was a pretty big factor in my decision to end it. I don't know you but you don't sound like the kind of person to threaten to kill anybody so I'm sure your conversation would be a lot more civil. Lol.