My Brief Experience with TRP and takeaways

Sure I will share with you, but will not be surprised if this gets down voted as it seems most redditors are anti-religion. I believe you are referring to one of my previous post regarding religion and TRP.

A little background on myself for context: I have grown up Christian and my faith is something that is important to me. I am however, very much a modern Christian - I do have sex with my girlfriend outside of marriage, I do drink alcohol and smoke weed (A man is not defiled by what enters his mouth, but by what comes out of it - Matthew 15:11). In college and a couple years following, I used to live a life that is more on par with TRP, before I even knew TRP existed (ONS, dating multiple women at once, lying, etc.) - I admittedly had felt abandoned by a previous lover and was feeling a bit cynical about woman and relationships at this time. However, I realized how unfulfilling this life was for me. It was always about the chase and never being content with what I had. I now have been dating a woman who shares the same values that I do for a year and a half and have stopped hanging out with friends who are all about getting drinking and chasing women. I have never been happier, this one person who I am in a honest and trusting relationship with fulfills me more than any amount of "plates" ever could.

My religious views are pretty much what allowed me to recognize the toxicity of TRP and decide it is not something that I want to be involved with. My above opinion of TRP in this OP is based on my Christian values. IMO, God wants us to continue to grow and become the best we can be, He made men and women different purposely, and it is important to share values with a person that you enter into a LTR with - these are all aspects of TRP doctrine minus the God part. However, all the negative views of women/relationships that the TRP pushes and I mentioned in my OP go against the values I hold as a Christian. IMO one can not embrace TRP and also practice Christian values.

My views on marriage are that men and women play different roles in a relationship and one can not dominate the other. I feel that marriage is all about honest communication, compromise, sacrifice, trust and forgiveness. I believe that for a marriage to be successful, it is important for both parties to share some core central values that they can fall back on when shit hits the fan. TRP seems to be against marriage because they are hell bent on the notion that a woman will become unsatisfied with their man if he is not 'alpha' enough and will inevitably cheat or flirt with another man, etc. Their solution to this is that the man should manipulate their partner to make them feel jealous and to show their partner other women value them. This is insecure and dishonest. I feel that if there is honest communication between each partner then issue like this can be avoided. I am not married, but I told my girlfriend I want her to be honest with me and tell me if she ever felt any urges to pursue another man or doubts our relationship in general - that way we can discuss where these feelings are stemming from and I can work to correct them and vice-versa.

I am sorry if this response is longer than what you were expecting lol. I am curious on your opinion however.

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