The first advice of idealists is to leave and gets a new fish from the pond. The fact is, all people are incomplete and most of us fret or get emotional when we don't get our way. He isn't a child, but a human being. Some are more mature, more thoughtful and more mindful, but that doesn't make them more human. Try to communicate. Try involving a professional. Try writing letters to each other. Try arguing. Try being quiet back, or taking away your body from him as a pleasure source unless he talks to you. There are infinite ways to try to mend things and grow a relationship. I have been with my husband for 9 years, and the first 5 years he never touched my dick. Not once. He wasn't "fully gay", but everything else was there for me. We worked and worked, and now, happier than ever. But still, we are just human beings. Do not runaway from a decent person because there are strangers on the internet who say isnt worth the work. Reality bites harder than idealists imagine. And relationships that last, do so at exceptional mental and emotional prices.