My dad is creepy to me and my gf

Expecting your 18 year old girlfriend to stand up to your dad - not just a man 32 years her senior, but also her boyfriend’s father (someone she wants to like and respect and who she wants to like her) is really unfair. Of course she can’t do anything, she’s uncomfortable and doesn’t know what to do. Cut her some slack.

It sounds to me like your dad is just struggling with the new dynamic and struggling with you growing up. It sounds to me like he’s trying to be nice and I don’t think he means to emasculate you. He’s just used to infantilising you (because you were a child) and it’s going to take him some time.

Of course, I’m only commenting based on what you wrote above. There may be more to the story that you haven’t mentioned, but honestly this sounds a lot like a dad with a bad sense of humour trying to be friends with your girlfriend and I think his bad sense of humour combined with your own insecurities is making it all seem worse that it is.

However if you truly believe it’s malicious and it’s honestly making you uncomfortable the only way to deal with it is to move out. I know it’s not that easy, and it’s maybe even not fair that you have to head out on your own, but it’s the only solution. As long as you’re living under his roof he’s always going to see you as a little boy.

You’re an adult. Get your own place and then you’ll get to decide who meets your dad and who doesn’t and you’ll get to have some much needed space from him.

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