My dad died 6 hours ago, how can i get past this?

As I kind of always end up thinking, its hard as everyone takes shit differently, but here goes:

Lost my dad at 21. I'm 28 now. I never got to show him, like, the best of me. It sucks, and truthfully there was no -getting past- that for me. But my dad had suffered losses I can't even imagine, brothers in wars, lost another child in a fire, ruined his back, divorce, just straight toughed through and did the best he could ever single day.

That's what I did. I got tough on myself, to be the best I could be, because what else would my dad want? I think about it far too often, what would my dad think of my current situation?

What would your dad want? I think its a good thing to work towards sobriety, as it gives you something else to put effort into. Don't worry about getting caught up in life and forgetting what your dad did for you, as that won't happen.

I hope that you can find a way through your own head, but please try to not beat yourself up over what if's, as that is something I and my sister still struggle with.

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