I really feel like being selfish is perfectly reasonable seeing as my dad almost died and I'm more worried about him than his apartment.
I should clarify why I said the landlord is being difficult. He said "your dad needs to clean out the apartment by the 1st." Which wasn't possible for me due to my work schedule. And yet still wanted him to pay for October. I responded that I didn't have time for that, but could get his furniture out in a week or two. To which they said the apartment needs to be cleaned out so they can show the apartment. I don't see why they can't just show the apartment anyway. It isn't like it actually got dirty in the four days my dad lived there. This conversation happened a couple days ago via email so it isn't like I was able to take off work the last couple of days (I can't afford to, I'm in the middle of a career change). If the landlord had told me this two weeks ago I could have found someone to drive a moving van and maybe help me get his furniture out, but I'm a young woman, I'm not busing at 10pm at night to meet up with people on Craigslist to let them have free furniture. And if I go there before work, it becomes a two hour commute to work from there, which is not my cup of tea. It would also mean I wouldn't be able to visit my dad before work.
So two Sunday's ago might have worked. And I contacted the landlord a few weeks ago. Yesterday did not work for me. I spent that time convincing my father he had to eat now that his feeding tube is out, despite him not having an appetite. He weighs less than a hundred pounds. I also researched nursing homes. And spent an hour waiting for him while he talked to his psychologist. So yeah. Maybe I'm being a little selfish and throwing the towel in concerning his apartment. Because I have bigger fish to fry.
But I was just curious about how the legalities of all this, not whether or not I'm acting immature. I think it's fine that I am and it sucks for the landlord, but frankly that's the risk you take when you own a rental property. You risk a tenant potentially dying. Or almost dying. I would rather be there for my dad in his last weeks and make sure he doesn't end up in a shitty nursing home than worry about his couch. He will always have a safe place to live if he makes it through this.