What a mess. I've made the mistake of putting limits on family members, then they weasel and shame their way back in to my life, I feel like I'm doing wrong by cutting my family out, maybe this time they have recognized the patterns and changed, open the door and let them in, and sure enough, something happens and I remember all over again why I blocked them in the first place. One of the giveaways, in my family at least, is that despite the horrible things they've done, they still justify it to themselves and to me. There's a kind of insincere apology that is not heartfelt, if there's an apology at all rather than an angry denial that they did anything wrong. And you know if they're not truly sorry or willing to do whatever it takes to make amends and change, they don't feel in their heart they did wrong, and will continue to repeat it. I know there is no way to bring your horse back. I'm sorry.