Believe me, I understand. my son (18) came out as trans when he was almost 16. It had been just him and me since he was 2. When I was pregnant, I never once thought about having a boy, I knew I was having a girl. Well . . .

I've had phases of "I'm losing my little girl", and it hurts. It does. But if you're open to this, you'll find that he doesn't really change as a person, he's still the same. My son is the exact same person he was before. Sure,there may be some changes when they undergo hormone replacement therapy, but in essence, they'll be the same kids we raised. And I've found that mourning the girl I thought I had is getting less and less often. It's a big change, and you need time, but I've found it just happens if you keep an open mind.

If you find you can't do it on your own, there are self-help groups for parents, or counseling. All the best <3