I see now why most use throwaway accounts to post. I in no way want to minimize anything she has been through because it is a VERY big deal. But, with the wording being used, I think its important to clarify. When I described what happened to her, I quoted her words, but I also used a girl doll to represent her and a boy doll to represent him so that she can comfortably demonstrate what she meant. I did this because at 4, she's not going to verbally express it accurately and because I know that if they were sitting, its not anatomically possible to penetrate anything. They were sitting and watching the movie in the front row, so everybody had a view of them in subsequent rows. She demonstrated that he tried to push her pants down in the back, and showed his hand at the top of her pants flesh with her back. So, to be clear, there was no penetration of any kind. But, this situation is just as serious to me, I just felt like that needed to be clarified. Thank you for the advice.