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Paṭikkūlamanasikāra (variant: paṭikūlamanasikāra) is a Pāli term that is generally translated as "reflections on repulsiveness". It refers to a traditional Buddhist meditation whereby thirty-one parts of the body are contemplated in a variety of ways. In addition to developing sati (mindfulness) and samādhi (concentration), this form of meditation is considered conducive to overcoming desire and lust. Along with cemetery contemplations, this type of meditation is one of the two meditations on "the foul"/unattractiveness (Pāli: asubha).

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Sexual Misconduct a) Classification of  Sexual Misconduct. There are three types of  sexual misconduct: protected by the family, protected by the owner, and protected by the Dharma. The first one means sexual misconduct with one’s mother, sister, and so forth.  The second one means sexual misconduct with someone owned by a husband or king, and so forth. The third one has five subcategories: even with one’s own wife, sexual misconduct refers to improper parts of  the body, improper place, improper time, improper number, and improper behavior. Improper parts of  body are the mouth and anus. Improper places are close to the spiritual master, monastery, or stupa, or in a gathering of  people. Improper times are during a special retreat, when pregnant, while nursing a child, or when there is light. An improper number is more than five times. Improper behavior refers to beating or having intercourse with a male or hermaphrodite in the mouth or anus.  Three Results of  Sexual Misconduct. “Result of  maturation of  the act” means that the actor will be born as a hungry ghost. “Result similar to the cause” means that even if  the actor is born in the human realm, he will become his enemy’s wife. “General result of  the force” means that the actor will be born in a place with more dust than normal. c) Distinctive Act of  Sexual Misconduct. Having intercourse with one’s mother, who is also an Arhat, is very heavy negative karma.

See p.131 https://books.google.com.hk/books?id=RRxs_xB2UB0C&pg=PA113&lpg=PA113&dq=gampopa+sexual+misconduct&source=bl&ots=LeGqDgDeVO&sig=zPKrl_bd6tuZ8HFzmQHTkLWvEWk&hl=zh-TW&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiV9vfBxb_dAhXJvrwKHWSAAukQ6AEwAXoECAkQAQ#v=onepage&q=gampopa%20sexual%20misconduct&f=false

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