I don’t think you’re a “self-centred asshole” when you’re doing your best to be self-aware of your symptoms and want to see your boyfriend’s side of things. So, it’s not your fault that your boyfriend is poor on his communication on what he really wants from you. If he wants to talk about his problem and you even encouraged him to, then he needs to say what he wants. You didn’t say that “your problems above his”, right? I don’t know how long you have been in a depressive episode but with the way things are handled right now, he’s saying the wrong things to any person suffering from depression. The best you boyfriend can do is to be patient. I understand it’s a tricky part though when you said that he’s impatient. Do you still wish to stay with him? Regardless, whether he’s burnt out or not, it may be best to find someone else who’s more understanding to help you with this sort of problem than with him.