It's my eighteenth birthday, I have no one to hang out with. Help me feel better

I have nothing to do

Yes you do.

You need a lifestyle change. Take it from a former lonely, miserable fuck. You can turn this around, and it's easier than you think. The question isn't if you can make friends, but how many years you're going to let drift by before you make the change. I regret every moment I lost.

First, and this is hard to get started, you need to hit the gym. Which is what everyone suggests. It's almost cliche, but it helps tremendously. You'll gain confidence, you'll get healthier, you'll feel better.

Once you have a good gym habit going, you need to delete your Reddit account, sell your gaming consoles, and limit your time reading and watching movies alone. Don't give up the alone time, but make a deal with yourself. If I go out on Friday night, I can do whatever I want Saturday. That kind of thing.

Check out meetup.com and find some groups nearby that interest you. Make an effort to join a meetup at least once a week. Stay with it, no matter how awkward or shy you feel. Socializing is like anything else. You need practice. Make an effort to get lots of good pics while you're at these meetups.

Once you're feeling a little more confident from the gym and your meetup groups, create an online dating account. Load some of those pics from the meetups and cast your net.

Once you meet the right girl and you're regularly interacting with people, you will be shocked at the massive change that takes place. Right now you're alone. The only feedback you have on yourself comes from yourself, and you know what? You're a really poor judge of who you are.

You need feedback from other people. From friends, from a partner, etc., to truly develop a sense of self.

Sorry for the long post. I know it pisses some people off, because they get really comfortable alone. They don't want to strike out there, or they have tried and it didn't work. There are always excuses not to make the change. I really, sincerely hope this helps you. It changed my life, and it might just change yours.

Good luck.

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