Sorry about my scattered answers in the comments but I’m not the best at wording everything all together, so here’s a timeline: First 1-5 months: typical nice guy stuff, I’m not majorly concerned he seems really misunderstood, he tells me his past and I feel sorry and bad for being so “misunderstood” 6-8 months: we’re very open and it’s around a release of one of the Welcome to the Game games so we told each other spooky stories and watched YouTube videos about it, over time he’d casually skip into conversation more of the mannerisms seen in text, I was oblivious since he is a major pussy in person, and immediately apologised for offending me with the topics (I wasn’t too offended because I thought he was just very socially awkward, but he always apologised for something) at the time he had already cheated on me, and was confiding in my best friend but she (obviously) didn’t like it and told him to tell me or she would. 9-12 months: she is a pushover and polite so she kept giving him more and more time but the more she bothered him about it the more he ended up unravelling, on our 1 year anniversary, I refused sex because I was sick with a stomach bug, he got mad and vented to her. At this point he uses these bursts of rage to justify putting off the news of cheating, she has enough and ignores him until he tells me. Later on our anniversary night he pushed me again for sex, I said “no” very clearly and loudly and when he tried to force me, using the reason that he liked rapeplay and that I was his girlfriend that it was ok. I pushed him off and basically told him “no what the fuck” he got angry and punched his wall, which made me panic because this was new to me, he’s never been violent in front of me, I’ve only ever seen a nice guy up until now. I went home and he texted my bff and lied to her about what happened, she told me to get out of there and I told her I was, she then asked to meet up to confess what she knew. He broke up with me after confessing it himself, and pretended he was still friends with her, she only messaged back when he was polite and asked how she was, but never when he spoke about me. And we continued to ignore him and the message you see above is 2 months after we broke up, before she had enough of his shit and blocked him. There’s a slight message above that’s cut off but it’s basically him going on a different tangent of messages from when she was eating dinner until she fell asleep, he then sent the one at 11pm apologising for the messages “I’ll leave you be message me when you’re feeling better” the other messages were asking how she was and getting bitter asking if she was talking to me/about him.
I’m happy to answer any questions but I think this should cover everything.
TL;DR a “nice guy” is actually a sex addicted psycho and can’t handle rejection/being ignored