Why is my (F20) abusive ex (M20) being so nice and civil after I broke up and left the house?

Here's a parallel for you: If I died, but every year on our anniversary I came back to hang out with my husband- how long would it take for him to get over me?

The answer is never- he would always be waiting around for our anniversary. It's the same way with dumping someone and not cutting them off.

If the relationship was over- your stuff would be moved out, and you would've sold/given the car to him or have a plan to take it back. You're literally giving him reasons to keep talking to you by not moving out/on.

Yes, he's abusive. You can't change that, but you can change yourself, how you react, and how you keep someone at a distance by NOT leaving your things in their house. Seriously, a storage unit is like $50-$100/month and buying your friends a case of beer for helping you move it all is $20. You might be up to $50 if you throw in some pizza.

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