I suffer from depression and my husband can literally talk about the lamest things and I don't gatekeep his feelings. Because I love him and support him, and depressions isn't an excuse to be a raging jerk.

This is manipulative (i.e. abusive) relationship. If you don't feel like you can talk freely to your SO without him raging, HE needs to change, not you. Again, you can't use depression as an excuse for him not being a good partner. If you can't share the dumb stuff of life with your SO, who else are you going to share that with. Therefore, I strongly would consider ending the relationship and let him figure this stuff out by himself. You can then move on and put time into other relationships that will benefit and support you.

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