My (F33) marriage to my husband (M34) has major sex, trust, and communication issues compounded by porn habits

I left a 7 year dysfunctional relationship at the age of 35. He is a wonderful person but we had no sex life for years. It plunged me into chaos because we live in one of the world's most expensive cities (San Francisco), and there was just a ton of emotional and financial consequences that were awful. But I pushed through because I knew I did not want to die never experiencing what a passionate, sexually satisfying relationship felt like.

My new partner is 30, absolutely gorgeous, successful, and we're extremely sexually compatible. It is a much more comfortable situation to invest in long term than what I had going on with my ex. I also had PLENTY of options in great guys, I just chose the guy who I felt the strongest connection to.

My advice is: please do not settle for what you have now. There's so much better for you out in the world. This is you traded long term, inescapable pain because you're afraid of short term hardship.

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