My Father Called Me A 'Snowflake' While Discussing Sexual Assault and Harassment

Your dad is probably just trying to make the point that men should be men. Being bold is what we do. It's what we're supposed to do. Women have a someone responsive attraction (in the sense that it responds to the actions of prospective partners). Being bold, taking action, and expressing their attraction to you is often what makes a connection happen. Even in the modern age, most women find it really unattractive for a guy to be too passive -- like one should never "ask" to have sex, you have to come onto the girl and wait for her to object if she wants. A girl that's slightly into you can get really turned on by an aggressive come-on.

You're conservativeish, so you already know men and women are different in some ways. This really boils down to the biology. Women pay the cost of pregnancy, so you guys are more picky about who you sleep with. Men have to be "special". You innately filter for men who're more likely to be successful and have good genes. Being bold is a form of being special. Having a take-what-you-want personality is more successful on average (sociopaths dominate the corporate world). Most women have rape fantasies. Etc. Anw, point is, there's a paradox in modern gender relations.

He's being a bit of a dick about it because he's just standing his ground. That's also what a good man is supposed to do. He knows this is just how the world is, but he's failing to really make the point clearly.

I think it's good in situations like this to be able to pull out to a third person perspective and just understand that people are just doing what they do. The fact stands that, presumably, your dad is a good man, he loves you, he takes care of you, etc. I wouldn't let this change anything.

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