that makes sense. I guess I just wish the detective would have just told me that, instead of saying “it was leaked”. because I completely understand that. those were his exact words when I asked why they told me all damn day that they could NOT release any details about it. they only told me at 2am that day that they were applying for warrants, like a search warrant... and at that time I didn’t know that also mean arrest warrant too. when I filed the missing person report, and got the call back that they’d “found him” the cop told me he’d been “arrested”. so when I couldn’t find any information about it... and they told me they couldn’t tell me anything... I didn’t even think to check.
thanks for responding, and sorry I’m a mess. I don’t care what the answer is, I know they’re doing their jobs.. even the press. it just confounded an already overwhelming earth-shattering situation more than it needed to be. it just sucks to be desperately searching for ANY answer, trusting people in a uniform are telling you the right answer... and then it’s not. I just don’t know why he couldn’t have explained it concisely like you did from the beginning.
I know how awful this sounds. I promise you. but please don’t judge me personally for this, as this was something I could have never expected in a million years. I’m still wrapping my head around it, or trying to. if it’s proven that he is indeed guilty, then he deserves to be treated like anyone else. but I’m just in shock, so please don’t judge me. the reason I believed the detective when he said he submitted the record sealed, is mostly because the allegations involved a minor. at the very fucking least, the alleged victim did not deserve to be plastered all over the media that way either. so it’s not like we’d think it would’ve been sealed bc he was barely locally well-known... it’s because of the minor. aka victim. I hate even writing those words because I never, ever, in a million years would ever think I’d have to.
thanks again for responding and sorry again for the rambling. like.. life throws you curve balls, I feel like life just threw a runaway train at me. within 12 hours I went from thinking my dad was dead/in a hospital to that.