My fiancé [27/M] is taking my handicapped brother [18/M] away for the weekend with friends. My mother [51/F] and I [28/F] are terrified. My fiancé won’t take our concerns seriously and is making jokes about it. Am I being too meddling?

One of my best friends has cp and for a very long time worked for a non profit specifically for helping others with various disabilities be more self sufficient. He's told me time and time again what holds these kids back isn't their disabilities, it's their overbearing families. My friend travels the world alone, we party probably too much, and he now holds a different job.

Your brother is an adult, his intellect and judgment aren't impaired. He's old enough to be as self sufficient as he can, and old enough to know when to ask for help. As someone who is in these kinds of settings with someone with cp regularly, he's more likely to get annoyed by strangers trying way to hard to help in unhelpful ways than be taken advantage of or be harmed.

Your fiance seems like a really cool dude, and it sounds like they'll have a fun time! It's hard to let go, but encouraging him in these kinds of things will really help him as he's growing up and wanting to be involved in more and more things.

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