I feel like you’re basing a stranger off of one paragraph though, and we’ve been together for five years and lived together for three years with no fights. Our major differences is he’s cluttered, and I’m clean, and I shop for new and he saves on to old things until they’re completely worn. Finances are why we have our separate bank accounts, and he has no debt and a good savings account and high education but feels like he has nothing monetary. Which is a good way to be, I think, because I have always felt financially secure with him, and I wouldn’t feel that way with a man who spent money out of concern for looks or status. They’re are comments calling him cheap, and that’s true. But being environmentally conscious and non-consumerist are important values to me in a partner, and he is both of those things - both due to his own values and because he’s cheap. I just don’t get why he was being cheap on this issue because marriage is important to him.