My friend [34/M] wants to try dating, but I [19/F] don't want to date him, and I'm afraid of losing him as a friend

Hey, I’m a 19 year old girl too, and I’m really sorry but I’m picking up a couple red flags here. A thirty four year old man and a 19 year old girl is a pretty big age gap even for friends, even more so for dating. You’re barely an adult meanwhile this guy’s been doing it for near two decades. I don’t think it’s really appropriate for him wanting to date you. I mean like I said I’m the same age as you and I wouldn’t feel comfortable if a 34 year old man asked me out.

I get that you just wanna stay friends, but really dating you should have never been on his mind in the first place. You seem like a kind person, and unfortunately an older guy like him could very well be trying to take advantage of that. I’m really sorry but I think you need to distance yourself from him.

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