Here is the first installment of Magikarp's Bad Choice in Friends: Episode 1. [1]
Thank you everyone. You were right. She was abusive and helping me in the past doesn't give her an excuse to be nasty. And she has turned out pretty nasty.
I am ending the friendship and no longer counting her among valuable people in my life.
I have learned a lot about myself and my ability to judge people are sane. So I have a therapy session on Friday to discuss boundaries. I hope it goes well.
Here is the timeline of what happened today:
6:00 am-- I left the house and went to Starbucks. I had a White Chocolate Mocha, chocolate muffin, and was productive!
7:30 am-- According to the kids, Tay dropped them off and left. Without even knocking on the door. They ended up doing that themselves around 10:30am.
11:00am-- Dad leaves a text message telling me the police came and took the kids. He asked that I stop being friends with Tay, because they don't want to deal with shit like this anymore. I agreed.
11:00am to 7:00pm Had a great day, like a boss. Got everything done I needed to. Didn't even check Tay's messages. I blocked her number, but texts still go through.
7:00pm Kitty (best friend) and I got home from dinner. She insisted we check the messages. And the following are the delightful rantings of a sane and caring person.
Texts:
[Magikarp] I dropped the kids off. They are in the backyard. Thank you so much. Let me know what I owe you for gas.
Joy texted me that you aren’t answering the door. I am at breakfast and really don’t have time for this. Please open the door. They need to be there by noon.
You better be taking them to camp.
Joy keeps texting me. I don’t have time for this. I am about to go into a meeting. Handle this.
I TRIED TO CALL YOU AND YOU ARE NOT ANSWERING YOUR PHONE. You are letting the kids down. I can’t trust you for anything. [Son] is crying and said that he is hungry. You should have kept your word.
I need you to keep the kids for the next two days, so please make sure you don’t leave them outside the whole time. We need to talk when I get back about this whole thing. Don’t think I am going to be paying you for your time when you pull shit like this. You should be more than willing to take them out to a movie now tht you have done this.
I am not going to be back in town tonight at all. You made this mess, you figure it out. I just finished my meeting and the police called HERE. I look like a monster.
I have to come home now to get the kids. You are a complete bitch.
Do I never get a break? What was so fucking important you could not take some kids with you? They would have entertained themselves.
YOU CALLED THE POLICE?! YOU CALLED THEM? YOU BITCH. NOW I WON'T BE ABLE TO BE AT THE MEEETING AT ALL. WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS TO ME? WHY?
IF YOU DON'T ANSWER YOUR PHONE I AM GOING TO THROW IT THROUGH YOUR WINDOW. WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU?
VOICE MAILS
She pretty much said the same things in the texts. But she also added a few more gems.
I owe her $10,000 because that is what her time is worth.
I owe her the cost of the camp.
I owe her for the career I just ruined.
I am a bitch.
She went on my FB and saw my check-ins. She screamed about how my HAIR is not worth the therapy her kids will have to go through. Which i Have to pay for.
I look like a fat cow in my dress.
I ruined a family.
I am going to be poor, live in a box, and my parents will die alone because she can't schedule right.
I blocked her from FB to "hide" what I am really doing.
Kitty finally got sick of the calling and answered the phone.
Tay: WHY THE FUCK HAVEN'T YOU ANSWERED YOUR PHONE AT ALL.
Kitty: This is Kitty.
Tay: I need to talk to her. RIGHT NOW. Do you know what she did?
Kitty: I don't care. She doesn't care. Stop calling.
And she is still texting me right now what a monster I am. I am so sick of this shit. Friendship over.
tl;dr: I have great friends who aren't abusive c*nt nuggets. So I am going to try to nurture healthier relationships. Tay called me a shit ton to tell me how much i fucked her over. Kitty answered the phone for me and told her not to call back unless she can apologize. Had a great day. Going to a wedding tomorrow, so that should be fun.