So, my friend made life-size Snorlax for my husband...

I think your opinions on morality are completely irrelevant. And just like I'm just one woman with my opinions, you're just one man with yours. I don't use dating apps and I haven't analysed the data for which men are most successful on them, so I'd need actual evidence before I assess that particular claim. I'm sure given that you're staying these assertions as facts you'll be able to provide some evidence that macho men are more successful?

Also, men like you are the exception. So you can't expect the rest of society to use your perspective as a barometer of gender and masculinity. Like you said, we can't expect people to form their conception of the world around exceptions! Most men don't think like you and wouldn't really give a shit about another man's masculinity because of a post on Reddit. That can be evidenced by the fact that the people criticising him for being effeminate are in a minority in this thread. Your perspective would have been in the majority a couple of decades ago, but you're in the minority now. It's also interesting that you're sure it is his wife that initiated an open relationship and is fucking all these other guys, how do you know he didn't initiate it so he can fuck other guys? Or other women?

The gender standards that existed 50 years ago would be out of place and inappropriate now. Because social constructs and social and gender politics change and evolve. I'm sure people 100 years ago thought society was going to crumble when women and slaves were given more rights, but social change has been happening for thousands of years. We can be tolerant of men who feel comfortable being more effeminate, just like we can be tolerant of men who are more macho. Maybe if we stop imposing archaic standards onto all men we can start dealing with male suicide more pragmatically and compassionately. Shaming men because they don't live up to contrived standards of masculinity doesn't seem like a productive way to advocate for men. Are men who are shorter, slimmer and more effeminate just supposed to pretend to be macho? Or are you suggesting that these men never find happiness and spend their lives miserable?

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