My friend was raped by her uncle a week ago. What do I do for her?

That’s good to hear, I’m glad you think I’ve done alright. The reason I mention her boyfriend is because he’s obviously a significant thing for her, and I know they’ve had somewhat of a rocky time in the past, so I just want to be able to help her avoid or lessen any more pain (which I don’t think is too likely, but I do know is possible and more likely than other things). We’ve always had clear boundaries and offers and all, so she feels comfortable telling me when enough is enough.

Thank you for your kind words. My mental health’s far from something you’d call “good”, I always rationalize the idea that I’m not actually a good person but instead I’m a bad person when I help people because I’m using their suffering to make myself seem like someone who isn’t terrible because I work hard to help, making me a bad person. I know it’s most logical for myself to be considered a good person because regardless of what I “am”, the actions I preform have been good and have taken much effort, and that’s the only factor in play, but I’m still working on getting myself to agree with it. It’s helpful hearing from other people. Apologies for becoming a bit long-winded, I’m about to pass out for the night and my pills are kicking in.

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