Sorry, it also means pedophile OCD I thought. I understand there are two things with the same acronym!

And thank you for your response. So so much. I also think if she wanted to get better about her relationship OCD she'd actually try too.

I think why she lies is that her family found out about her having sexual thoughts about her neices and nephews back when she was homicidal and we didn't know what was going on and she told me to tell them everything. So I think she's lying because she says if they talk to her psychiatrist and therapist who will tell them it's all fine then she'll be able to see the kids again. So I guess from that standpoint it makes sense as to why she'd need them to be able to say she doesn't have that issue any more? But yes I think she isn't like most OCD people in that she's never had an anxiety attack tho she does freak out a lot, and I think it's weird that instead of spending her therapy sessions addressing her problems she instead talks about just our relationship, making her rocd at least worse.

Once again I appreciate your reply so much. This is hard obviously.