I wore hijab for many years, and I’d like you to tell you about some experiences.
The time my so called friend ripped it off my head in front of a bunch of guys in a parking lot. It was extremely embarrassing to have my autonomy taken from me, and for others to see that. It wasn’t about my hair, it was about someone taking my choice on what I wear violently away from me. I do not want you or anyone else to experience that.
The turban wearing bus driver once told me we need to stick together cause people will always give us shit for covering our hair in the US. This came up cause another hijabi (hijab wearing) woman cursed him out over the fare. He wasn’t upset that someone cursed him out, he drives a bus and gets that daily, but that someone from the community of peeps who cover their hair did as it makes us all look bad in a country where we need to protect each other. I should mention I’m not far from a part of the US where turban wearing uncles have been murdered for their dress. I rode that bus every day for a couple of years, and hope the driver is doing well.
People will hate you for anything you do, but your home needs to be the one place you can be you. Home here is not just physical, but relational. It means people. Surround yourself with people who bring you up, not down. You will find a partner who respect your dress, but this gf of yours is not it. Be well my friend.