My girlfriend [26/F] of 6 months constantly communicates to me [29/M] that my interaction with other women makes her uncomfortable.

I'm not sure how helpful this will be, but I used to get jealous or angry when my SO would talk to certain female friends. The big issue came when we started spending time with a Brazilian girl and I had a hard time with her super friendly Brazilian-ness. She kisses and hugs everyone, and my SO is very friendly and gregarious as well, he often picks up girls when he hugs them and that kind of thing. So the combo was a little much for me at times.

When I would confront my SO about it he would understand the situation, but he would tell me to get over it. Literally "Ritasativa I agree that Carla is very flirtatious, but it means nothing to me. you're being ridiculous, and I'm not having this conversation until you see that. Get over it." And I realized what's the point of getting upset at him, when he isn't the problem? And I don't expect him to be unfriendly or rude to her either. I had to take a step back to see that the only issue was me and my jealousy. And no confronting Carla is not an option, I'm not that type of person.

This may sound shitty but you need to tell her how it is. Ask her to trust you. She is the one who needs to get over it, she will save herself time and stress by letting the jealousy go. Jealousy will never get you ahead in life, it's a waste of energy. It's unreasonable to expect a SO to never speak to the opposite sex, or to not make friends with them. But for a relationship to progress to marriage and beyond (if thats what you're into) she needs to work on it and let it go in some capacity. It will take time. And if she's unwilling to make it work or decides to use this as a way to accuse you of cheating, then so be it.

You cannot sail a (relation) ship with holes for long. This might be a bigger hole than you realize but both of you have time to fix it if you work together.

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