My girlfriend (28f) is annoyed that I (29f) don’t want to move into a luxury $4800 1 bedroom apartment even if she would be paying for most of it

I see many comments disagreeing with OP and I would like to share a similar story (had posted on this sub a few weeks ago).

Me and my fiance broke up because his standard of "luxury" was similar to mine mostly because of ideological reasons/preferences, till he came into a very high-paying job. We broke up.

It wasn't because I was functioning based on pride or affordability of stuff or anything. It was because I was simply not comfortable splurging so much. It was because I feel deeply for the billions of people suffering around the world for lack of food, a home, and other basic stuff. None of us were living frugally either; we both could afford luxury even before this job happened. But none of us wanted to for similar reasons. Apparently, all it needed for him to change was to start earning 5X his earlier pay.

I had to break up. I am suffering tremendously now, but in the long run, having stayed with him would have filled me with regret (also because much of his current pay is black money so I wouldn't be able to use all that wealth to actually help those in need). I hope you make the decision best suited for yourself. Good luck.

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