My girlfriend (28F) lied to me (25M) before we was "official". I haven't confronted her as I found out by snooping.

I'll get downvoted for this because you guys weren't "official" when she lied, but I would be upset by this and not continue dating this person.

Don't confront her about the messages. She'll use that as a reason to make you look crazy to deflect blame.

She lied. You seem to value honesty a lot, and she does not display honesty. She lied about the nature of her relationship with that guy, because she knew telling you the truth would not benefit her. Sure they just met up for innocent dinner and drinks as friends and have respectful communication now, but they were fucking previously.. And she still went and hung out with him alone. While you were official... That doesn't seem fair to me or respectful

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