Women: do not ask this question unless you a) are willing to hear the worst of answers b) willing to go through with the worst of answers c) know for fact this will not effect how you see him/relationship, your named friend or how you see the world in general.

Men: there is no right answer, I can give you my best idea from my humble stand point. Let her do the talking.... as in she says something- you say what she just said back to her...(I read about this in parenting book on how to get teenagers to talk to you more, must say, works like fucking magic)

Her: if we were to have three some whichs friend would you choose.

You: if we were to have a three some what friend would I choose? Look puzzled as if this is alien idea that had never occured to you and stay the fuck silent.... and keep puzzled(this is strange new thought, I know nothing about) look on your face.

Her: ya, i was thinging...... rambles, rambles, tells you why she asked ect...

You: repeat said reason for her asking = You want to do this because....... yada yada yada?

Her: gives her suggestion.

You: state her suggestion and ask if she thinks it's a good idea?

Her: ya

You: ok if you think so honey.

I wouldn't push your ideas too much unless she begs you for them and you know she is that kind of a woman who can handle it. If you play your cards right, it could be a more than once type deal. Maybe suggest it not be her friend.... the less weird after, the better your chances of repeat. Your emotional intelligence in these cases can get your more than worth of gold. So the better tuned into her you are the less likely you are to fail. Double edged sword. Sometimes, if you have that kind of connect odds are you won't need a third party. So many fish.

Good luck!