My husband (31M) of a few years suddenly left me (29F) out of the blue and has been ghosting me since.

I know a woman who both did this and in return had this done to her, seems pretty common.

She had been having an emotional affair with a married man online for months before she told everyone her and her current husband would be splitting amicably and had been technically separated for months. He seemed to disagree with the timeline but went along with her version. She then moved out and immediately flew across the pond "on a business trip" which was actually a cover for seeing her affair partner. She returned from "the business trip" talking about how she just "met a new man" there as if it was totally unplanned. She then invited this strange man she met for the first time in another country and had only "known a couple days" to come stay with her and her two small children for two weeks over Thanksgiving. No one believed her story, but she sure stuck to it like glue. It was pretty clear to everyone else involved though that she had been having an affair with the British guy, left her current husband for him and then faked the whole "I fell in love with my tour guide on a 'business trip'" thing to cover for her affair.

In the end it all blew up in her face. Not only was he married (she knew that but thought he would also divorce his spouse) with no intention of getting divorced, but she was one of three middle aged ladies he was playing for vacation sex while his wife thought he was "traveling for business". He completely ghosted her, which caused her to go on a three day bender ending with the police dragging her off for psychological evaluation after four of her neighbors called the cops on her house. He also sent out friend requests to people on her friends list, proudly displaing he was happily married for over a decade on her profile, before blocking her. I guess one more humiliation to ruin her lie and let everyone know "her boyfriend" was married the whole time and she was the other woman.

Anywho, you'd think she would learn but she's currently dicking around with a married local firefighter.

Some people are just assholes. I'm sorry you had to find out your husband was this way.

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