My husband committed suicide Saturday and I’m wondering how to handle this regarding our 2 year old

I am so sorry for your loss.

But I have to be real with you. As someone whose parents lied to them as a kid to “protect” them multiple times, your kid will find out. Likely younger than you think they will. And they will resent you for lying.

As previous commenters have said, it is impossible and unrealistic to keep your child from learning the truth about your husbands death. The only thing that’s up to you is how he will learn it. Learning it from you is less damaging than learning it from a stranger.

I learned all my family’s truths from outsiders, and the result is that I can’t honestly bring myself to believe anything my mother or father say to me anymore. They’re both repeatedly proven liars.

I love them, but I know they will edit the truth to make things appear “better” before they will tell me true events. Ironically, my sister is the only one who will be straight-up with me about events they lie about, as she grew up in the same environment I did.

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