My husband doesn’t love our baby. I am heartbroken

This is so true, actually this is what happened to me when my son was first born. It’s a long story, it was a bit of a mess, but basically I just did everything myself, had some immediate family visit over the first few weeks to help, and my partner (who had zero experience with kids or even parents) just… didn’t really get involved, and was a bit afraid to, and I didn’t try to push it. Once family left, he and I started involving him more and more. Like you could see a HUGE difference, over time the more involved he was, the more you could tell he was developing a bond with our son, versus when he wasn’t as involved.

It’s a terrible idea for the relationship now and in the long run, between the baby and dad, for OP to not involve him in the actual care of the child. I’m also a bit confused since it was a planned and wanted pregnancy by both parties, why is dad not involved in the care at all?

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