My husband held me and wouldn't let go until I became hysterical. I don't know what to do.

Victims that won't heal resist personal accountability mostly because society encourages them to do so. And I can guarantee you personal accountability is the only way to be set free. I was raped by a boyfriend when I was 19, I was abused by a drug addict older brother for years. Later I married a religious zealot who tried to steal my child away from me when I decided that I did not want to be a part of his religion anymore. It took 5 years and 50,000 dollars to fight and I won everything because I didn't give up. I know firsthand what it takes to overcome these tragedies. Were these tragedies my fault? No of course not. But how I choose to handle them is. This woman drinks alcohol and gets into a domestic dispute with a loved one and then pulls out her PTSD and anxiety attacks as a way to justify blasting him and their personal business on Reddit. If I did that to my husband I wouldn't to be able to live with myself. As a woman I see victim mentality women abusing and using and manipulating their husbands, I see so many selfish selfish people make their entire existence all about their sicknesses about their needs about their past about their problems and they abuse the people around them by sucking the life out of everyone's life around them. They abuse the very people that want to help them. I see that in this man who lives "under a dark cloud". No. You don't get to just not communicate with your partner because you get anxiety. No you don't get to absorb all the emotional energy in the room just because you're sick. Granted I don't know this woman and I could be completely wrong about her. Not all victims will act this way, some will just hide but she's calling out for attention. She needs to stop drinking( if her PTSD is that bad it's not advised) and she needs to learn breathing techniques and not put the people around her in danger blaming her sickness.

Let the downvotes ensue. I could give a damn. Victims that cry wolf, use their illness as a way to conjure attention and pity make up most of these self proclaimed PTSD mental illness sufferers. Meanwhile, people that have overcome trauma know firsthand that the only way to do so is to take command of your life.

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