My husband knocked up another teacher at the private catholic school for girls he works at

Exactly! So sorry that happened to you. Everything you said is exactly what I’m feeling right now. He’s fooled everyone into thinking he is such a great guy, outgoing, life of the party, always gets along with everyone, etc. behind closed doors he belittled and mocked me, had a huge anger problem and punched holes in the walls and doors of his home. But I loved him, and since he was so beloved by everyone, I started feeling like everything was my fault. Even when I found out from his attorney he had filed and she made him call me, he told me he wasn’t dating anyone and had never felt more lonely. I told him I had been going to therapy and was on medication and was doing as much as I could to be better for myself, and for us. He told me it was too late and I straight up asked him if he just did not love me anymore? And he said “I’m not saying that, whatever you need to do to get you through this is fine.” I couldn’t understand why, I had just gotten sick during 2020 when Covid hit. If he still loved me and knew that I was getting help to get better why is he doing this?

Two months later, people started blowing up my phone telling me another teacher was 5 months pregnant with his baby (she’s now 6 months). Friends sent me pics of him and her posing together during Christmas with a big belly, and I still couldn’t believe it. Finally I saw their baby registry.

He filed for divorce right when he found out she was pregnant! Could not even tell me. Let me spill my guts out to him on the phone and then made me think he still loved me but this is all my fault. Still will not apologize for it to me even though he knows that I know.

I feel like by taking the “high road” I am enabling him and he’s just gonna keep getting away with it, and destroy countless other lives in the process.

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