My husband lied to me about my birthday so that I wouldn’t have a party.

Can I ask you why ties you to this man still? I would say enjoy your party and honestly start therapy for yourself, build up your walls and build up your self-esteem because you deserve to have love, deserve to be cared about and deserved to be adored and your husband is not that man. This is a person I wouldn't waste time on, he counts on you to be shut down and meek so he can do as he pleases. My father always used to know what to say to me to knock me down because he installed the buttons. It was about control. He controls you with his put downs and as this party comes closer it will get stronger and stronger so just watch and learn who he is because once you have worked on you these types of people won't effect you because you've learned their game. Enjoy your party and have a wonderful happy birthday. I have celebrated me on my birthday for years if nobody planned anything I did it for myself. Once I treasured me and my time, the right people came into my life.

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