I understand that completely. I took a lot of videos for him as well, him of me, pictures etc.

In fact one of our plans was to upload them on pornhub because of this same reason, we would've both enjoyed it.

It turned me on too but only when it came to men. He got an obsession of saying how i'm attracted by women when i was constantly saying no, only because i'm hurt of the flirting he continued doing it doesn't make me attracted to women but he wouldn't listen

Somehow it made more sense to him to reason my hurt into a pleasure but i just wasn't working like him or was build the way he was

When your partner doesn't care enough to listen is just not going to work when you dip into other sexual experiences together where there are no clear boundaries nor respect

But you have that so i'm sure you'll be alright