My husband told me he doesn't find me attractive cause I've gained weight

Oh, honey pregnancy is a bitch and it can mess with some peoples metabolism. Between work, a little one, and getting older, that can make weight issues harder to deal with. And it sounds like your husband instead of understanding and helping you, is just judging you. I’m so sorry for that.

Id suggest a doctor check up as it can be things like anemia or thyroid issues that can pop up after pregnancy. Also consider trying a multi vitamin for a month as sometimes pregnancy causes nutritional deficiencies and getting a little extra of things like iodine, zinc, b vitamins can help. Also consider upping your protein intake for a month to see if that helps as well.

Also the problem can be on his side, he could have a lower libido and blame it on your weight, or he can base his self worth on his conventional attractiveness so he judges you the same way, or he can just struggle to connect emotionally, as it’s the emotional connection that allows people to see past what is considered conventionally attractive to still see someone as beautiful.

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